Telling others about the death of a loved one is a very difficult task in what is already an emotionally painful time. As well as informing family members and friends of the death, there are also companies and organisations that need to be notified.
Deciding How to Tell People
Initially, you may feel overwhelmed by the burden of informing others, so it is important to consider ways that will make the process easier for you.
It may help to begin by making a list of the people you wish to notify of the death. This will include family members and friends, as well as places of work. From this point, you can decide how you wish to inform these people of the sad news, which you can work your way through over the coming days.
Considering the relationship someone had with the deceased will often help to determine what format you choose when notifying them of a passing. There will be people who you can inform over the telephone, however there may be others, such as family members or very close friends, who you feel should be told face to face.
If possible, try to share the news within a day or two so as to avoid people finding out accidentally, which can cause additional upset. Sharing the responsibility of notifying others with fellow family members can be beneficial as it helps to ease what can be an overwhelming burden of having to inform everybody by yourself.
Informing Official Organisations
The emotional challenge of informing relatives and friends of a death can take its toll; but equally, notifying the variety of necessary organisations can be a difficult task. Although it may feel like a burden, informing businesses and bodies of a death can help avoid future distress caused by being contacted unexpectedly due to them not being aware.
Organisations you may want to consider contacting include banks, insurance and pension providers, utility companies, and government offices. Many support sites, such as the Bereavement Advice Centre, provide details of people to inform.
To stop any unwanted marketing post, you may want to consider using the Bereavement Advice Centre’s Junk Mail Suppression Service.
Tell Us Once
To help simplify the process of informing all the necessary government departments of a death, the government has made available the Tell Us Once service. This service allows you to report a death to all necessary government departments at once, such as the Department for Work and Pensions (DWP), HM Revenue and Customs (HMRC), and your local council.
When registering the death, the registrar will let you know if the service is available in your area, and provide you with contact details and a unique reference number allowing you use of the service. If available in your area, the service can only be used within 28-days of the date that you register the death.
Before using the service, ensure you have all the necessary personal documentation and details to hand. This includes:
- Date of birth
- National Insurance number
- Passport number
- Driving licence
- Vehicle registration number
If this service is not available in your area, you will need to inform the relevant government bodies yourself.
For more information on the Tell Us Once service, see the government website where you can find details of the process and required documentation.
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